We want to provide a space for other parents to find a pathway to self-compassion. This is not about purging a traumatic experience from our very essence, more about gently holding our tender wounding and caring for it in a more intimate, expansive way. We are working in the community in South Devon and we:
- are offering community gatherings with a warm, welcoming atmosphere - a safe place in which to share from the heart.
- will be heard and held and hear and hold.
- want to collaborate and explore innovative approaches and trauma sensitive tools, therapies and techniques.
- want to create a more trauma informed approach to health care and maternity services.
- are raising awareness about birth trauma and perinatal PTSD as this is creating emotional, psychological and physical health challenges for Mothers, Partners, Babies and Children and in terms of relationships, bonding and attachment if left undiagnosed and unsupported.
- want to support new parents as a growing community of elders - which is something we feel our society really needs.
So if you are looking to dig a little deeper into your life and into the foundations of your narrative, your personal evolution on this planet in the context of your life experiences, traumas and feelings of overwhelm then this is the right space for you to be too. We have created Being Held precisely because we feel that when we experienced a near miss birth trauma we weren't held or heard. I personally carried on for 17 years without really realising how profoundly dissociated I had become from my body and how I had lost a lot of myself along the way.
I was profoundly affected by the traumatic birth of my son. So was my husband and so was my son who too was battered, bruised and barely alive. He is 19 now and I give thanks every day that he and I made it. I hadn't realised until very recently that I had undiagnosed perinatal PTSD and by this time my body was screaming at me to pay attention and listen Does this sound familiar to you too? Yet no-one has ever asked me about the birth. How it felt like I was raped by a giant set of salad servers... (the NHS term for forceps) and how I also felt that the 12 or so people (including my husband) that were in the delivery suite with me were watching this happen and not doing anything to help. Who says that this is OK?
I have been on my own journey since this happened in 1998. Once I came out of being frozen and shut down (which is a whole other story!) I have travelled with confusion, sadness, grief, rage, shame, feeling like a failure all whilst maintaining my Super-Mum armoury! It hasn't been pretty! It has, at times, been scary and isolating. I am here to share my learning and insights about how trauma can be truly transformative and how, by listening to our bodies and practising self-care, we can release the trauma and hold ourselves and our experience with loving kindness and compassion. I am also passionate about trauma-informed approaches to care and supporting medical professionals to understand and care more about our unique trauma histories and personal narrative.
Come along to one of our gatherings, email or give me a call.
If you or anyone you know anyone who has experienced or witnessed birth trauma - meaning that they themselves feel it was overwhelming or traumatic or where it was a birth that was described by health care professionals as a near miss, emergency/assisted delivery that required physical intervention (ventouse/vacuum, forceps) or caesarian section, then please share our contact details. We are here for you. We are holding storytelling/talking circles and are available on Skype and Facebook (Julie Horsley).
Being Held is in Teignmouth, South Devon and work across the South West of the UK and over Skype.
Julie - Call or Text 07976 646392 or email firstname.lastname@example.org and Skype Weaver of Wellbeing